For Sons of Narcissistic Mothers

Narcissistic mothers poison their children: They lie, undermine, ridicule, invalidate, and gaslight, us. For this poison, the SONMs Liberation Course is the antidote.

This eight-week course will run from August 3rd until September 21st from 7pm until 9.30pm (Irish time). Each session will be packed full of learning, information, and the opportunity to practice what you’re learning. I guarantee that your truth will be heard, borne witness to, and validated by other men who have experienced very similar things. 

You will learn techniques to deal with your narcissistic mother, and gain opportunities to practice these techniques with other participants. You will be offered the opportunity to build your own community with other SONMs, that will continue beyond the eight weeks you spend together.

Each week, I will provide you with some supporting ‘homework’ to help you reflect on, and extend, the work we’ll have already done together. I will also check in with you every Friday to see how you are.

The cost of the entire programme is €540. 

In the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), [1NPD is defined as comprising a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by the presence of at least five of the following nine criteria:

1. A grandiose sense of self-importance
2. A preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
3. A belief that he or she is special and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people or institutions
4. A need for excessive admiration
5. A sense of entitlement
6. Interpersonally exploitative behaviour
7. A lack of empathy
8. Envy of others, or a belief that others are envious of him, or her
9. A demonstration of arrogant, haughty, behaviours or attitudes

I am not encouraging you to diagnose your mother by proxy, but I will say that if you find your experience of your mother as  five of the attributes listed above, then you are dealing with a mother who displays many aspects of narcissism. You are trying to navigate a relationship with many of the hallmarks of a narcissist.

This means that your relationship with her is difficult – of course it is – and chances are you have been assigned the role of ‘scapegoat’ or ‘black sheep’ in your family. The ‘Golden Children’ rarely view their relationships with their mothers as problematic because they benefit from all the attention they get from her.

This Eight Week Programme Will Cover The Following Topics:

The power of free-writing and journaling
An opportunity for you to share your story and receive validation other SONMs. Your chance to speak your truth and be heard
Discussion about the different levels of contact with your narcissistic mother: pros and cons of each, and how to manage them
Speaking your truth to your mother: yes, or no, and how and why to do it for best results
Why, and how, to be ‘grey rock’ around narcissists, and real-time practice of this skill
Practice in dealing with flying monkeys so that they fly away without having shamed you into doing their bidding
The four different kinds of stress responses (not just flight or fight), how to recognise them, and the best way to respond
Practice in dealing with other people who ask difficult questions about your mother
How to manage your anger and shame in a healthy and empowering way
The role of forgiveness in dealing with a narcissistic mother, and it’s not what everyone else tells you
Grieving the mother you should have had, but didn’t
What do to if she dies while you are not in touch with her
How to find the best therapist for you.

What Others Have Said:

‘Thank you. My deepest and most sincere gratitude for making this amazing effort for us.’ – MH, USA

‘I’ve never done a workshop I enjoyed this much. It became the highlight of my week.’ – JDG, England

‘I highly recommend this course. It’s quite gentle and supportive.’ – CH, USA

‘These workshops changed my life’ – YR, Sweden

‘I feel calmer and stronger and more able to let go of the negative feelings that I felt prior to the programme.’ – S. McV, USA

If you would like more information, please feel free to get in touch.

SONM Liberation Course

Full payment for the eight-week programme, including weekly support exercises, weekly check-in, and community access.