Nigel Brendan Talbot

Nigel Brendan Talbot was my eldest brother. A year ago today (November 2nd), he died. I ceased contact with him in 2010, and with good reason: From the time I was seven years old, until I was thirteen – and he left our childhood ‘home’ for tertiary education – Nigel sexually abused me.  The last […]

ADHD & Me

In August of this year, I was diagnosed with ADHD. I am in my late 40s, and I am a woman, which is part of why it took so long for me to receive a diagnosis. Women have always been under-researched, and therefore, under-diagnosed. When it comes to ADHD, we mask better than boys from […]

A Guide To Failing Sexually Abused Children

Me, aged 9. I’d already been a victim of sexual abuse for 7 years when this photograph was taken. For help with child sexual abuse, rape and incompetence:  Yesterday, Sarah McInerney wrote a piece in The Times about my late friend, Shane Griffin, and how he was let down by a number of systems in […]

Breastfeeding After CSA

The first week of August was World Breastfeeding Awareness Month, but the United States Breastfeeding Committee has declared the whole month of August Breastfeeding Awareness Month. In honour of that, I wanted to share a few thoughts on breastfeeding after the mother has suffered Child Sexual Abuse.  While so many of us want to breastfeed, […]

The Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

I am delighted to report that Headstuff has published a piece I wrote about Narcissistic Mothers. You can read it here. On foot of recognising the terrible damage my own narcissistic mother is responsible for, I set up a support group for daughters of narcissistic mothers. It’s a secret group on FB (so no one […]